The Comparison of Family Education between China and Western Countries

  The western family education is different from china in the educational goal. Education is not the preparation for earning their living, but for survival. “The learned education” they emphasize has the value of molding one’s mind, one kind of value which has nothing to do with the utility or the occupation consideration.Perhaps many Chinese parents deny this point, and think that I am talking nonsense and do not respect the elder. But the fact is actually so. As is known, the parents usually discuss their own child, and compare other child with their own child. Especially, the child's study is considered as the object of comparison. I have a neighbor, whose child just goes to the elementary school. But the child has carried his big bag to make up his lesson every day and everywhere. Because, my neighbor had chats with his friend one day, and his friend told him, his child, who had not gone to school, could know 300 Chinese Characters, but also could read the ancient poetry, and let the child perform on the scene. Told of this, my friend was stimulated. Due to his child is same age with that child, he was much more anxious, and brought a book to test the child’s intelligence according to the way in this book. Besides these, if other’s child won the first prize, he would have the nightmare in the evening, because his child always came at the 20th of the list in the elementary school.

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 When the child goes to college, the parents’ comparison is more intense. “Which university does your child attend?” If the child studies in Qinghua, Beijing University, or other famous universities, the parents will take a pride in their child; if the child has not been matriculated in a famous university, the parents will feel sad and ashamed of facing relatives. Above all, we can know Chinese parents put their faces in the first place. And in the western countries, these things never happen. An American friend, who is only graduated from a specialized middle school, works in a small store. In my opinion, he is almost below the life’s “the safety line”, and has little to be proud of. But his parents appreciate actually him much more. Why? Because he takes part in the piano performance in the community frequently, and obtains the reward many times. The main difference is that the college chosen by the Chinese children is usually famous one, and the Western children choose the college according to their own likes, instead of taking “famous or top college”as the decision factor.[ http://www.chinafew.com/jjdh/jtgj/jtgj_2005001.htm] 个人简历

 All this shows that the comparison of the Chinese family is often again studies, the aspect is unitary, and the comparison of the Western family often pays great attention to the comprehensive quality. The Chinese family likes to compare their own child's merits with other child's shortcomings, in which the parents may seek self-consolation. The western family often introspect their own child's merits and success, is not accustomed to seeking to do others down. To summarize, China's family often wants to highlight own image, disparages others unintentionally in the comparison; the western family often pays great attention to his own self-respect, self-possession, own happy. 简历模板

   In fact, Western family does not make the comparison painstakingly, but the Chinese family’s comparison has brought about a serious problem: Competing

  Thirdly, the view of who is the main body of  the family and the reciprocity of education are different. 简历封面

  The Chinese traditional family culture is following the dominant pattern, displays the family’s internal authority consciousness. It emphasis obedience and respects, takes the external control serious. The chief educator is parents in china’s traditional culture. The Chinese parents' guardian-consciousness is extremely intense. They regard the child as their own private property, regard him as their accessory. Therefore, the parents think highly of shaping the child unlaterally, affects the child's individuality construction. They pay attention to their own image, has neglected the child and adult's interaction, its process and comprenensiveness, so it causes the child to be in the passive position, disregard of the child's individual existence. 个人简历

  Whereas, the western civilization takes the child as the main body, emphasizes individual struggle, emphasizes equality, democracy and respects the individual right. The western parents think of the child as an equal member in the family, respect the child's personality and dignity, can let the child think independently and choose freely. They respect the child's right, do not do the compulsory education. They respect the child's self-respect, advocate child's instinct development, and the natural development. Parents' responsibility only lies in discovering and guiding the child's interests and potential ties, creating the advantageous environment for the child, paying attention the communication with the child, and the educational reciprocity. In the western home education, the parents are not child's dominations, but his friends.